All Things Lingerie: How to Buy It, When to Wear It, and More

When was the last time you upgraded your underwear drawer? Many women are guilty of replacing their outerwear before even considering investing in new bras and panties. But intimate apparel can be an amazing way to boost self-confidence to help you feel empowered in your body.

Are you curious about lingerie? Do you wonder how you would look in that adorable matching bra and panty set you saw while scrolling Instagram? Stop wondering and start shopping!

Here is your complete guide to all things lingerie – to make it easy for you to shop for and wear intimate apparel.

What is Lingerie?

Lingerie is defined as “women’s underwear and nightclothes.” Sure, lingerie can be a lacey three-piece set complete with stockings and a garter belt – it could also be a simple and chic bralette and silk shorts combo you wear to bed or the bra and panties you wear with your everyday clothes.

Examples of Lingerie

  • Silk Camisole and shorts pajama set
  • Teddies
  • Bodysuits
  • Bras and panties
  • Corsets
  • Bustiers
  • Babydoll nightgowns
  • Kimono style robes
  • Leather harnesses
  • Garter belts
  • Fishnet or nylon stockings

If you could wear it to bed or underneath your clothes, it’s lingerie. You can keep it as elaborate or as simple as you like. Whatever you choose should help you feel amazing in your skin.

Who is Lingerie For?

Lingerie is for everyone! It allows you to express the intimate parts of yourself you may hide from the world. Unlike your outerwear, lingerie is something you buy for yourself alone. A good bra and panties can help your clothes fit better. Plus, when you feel sexy in your underwear, you’ll have a little secret that can empower you throughout the day.

In the end, it isn’t the lingerie that can create a space for more intimacy in the bedroom; but your willingness to express yourself through your clothing and be the most vulnerable and heightened version of yourself. Maybe your romantic partner has the privilege of experiencing this version of you – but you buy lingerie for yourself first. Use these pieces to step into your power.

How to Discover Your Intimate Sense of Style

Lingerie lets you explore the parts of your personality you may not share with the outside world. You can use your everyday sense of style to guide you when you shop – or throw it out the window completely.

Go on Pinterest, pick up a magazine, or browse online to see what pieces spark your curiosity. A buttoned-up businesswoman may want to try a strappy leather set one week and a pastel lace chemise the next. Find what feels good and will empower you to own your curves and love the body you were blessed with.

How to Buy Lingerie

Now for the fun part – shopping! Who doesn’t love to treat themselves to a little retail therapy? Following this guide can quickly find your fit and avoid wasting time and money on returns.

Before you start shopping for lingerie, it’s essential to measure yourself properly. Even if you feel you know what size bra you wear, measure again! Bra size can change yearly due to hormones, pregnancy, or other lifestyle changes. Better to measure and ensure you get the perfect fit.

Take Your Measurements

You’ll need a measuring tape or long string and a ruler.

  1. Band Size – wrap the measuring tape around your torso, just under your bust and shoulder blades where the band of your bra sits. It should feel snug but not tight. Round up to the nearest whole/even number.
  2. Bust – wrap the measuring tape around the fullest part of your bust and round up again.
  3. Cup Size = Bust size – Band size. 00 = AA, 1=A, 2=B, 3=C, etc…

You should also measure your torso length, waist, and hips for bodysuits and corsets.

Shopping in Person

If you shop in person, don’t hesitate to pop into the fitting room and try different items. This can be an excellent opportunity to see what styles and cuts feel best on your body. Use the attendants in the store, their knowledge of all things lingerie can help guide you to find the ideal set.

Shopping Online

Online boutiques are also an excellent resource for lingerie. Use the size guides and customer reviews to decide whether to size up or down for specific pieces. If you are ordering from a store for the first time, check their return and exchange policy before placing your order.

When to Wear Lingerie

Lingerie is for everyday, special occasions; you name it!

  • On days you need a confidence boost
  • To upgrade your sleep routine
  • To spice up your relationship
  • For your wedding night and honeymoon
  • Try using lingerie as outerwear